Our brains are hard-wired to automatically remember traumatic times, but not good times. This makes sense, for example touching a hot stove. We need to remember things like this or we will do it again. (And if you’re like me you accidentally do it again anyway.)
Good times on the other hand are not automatically kept, and definitely not in the forefront. You can prove it to yourself now, tell me the top five traumatic experiences you’ve had and then tell me the five best. You likely had more trouble with the five best. I’m here to tell you that 20 seconds can help you reverse this.
Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and then spend 20 seconds focusing on something perfect. Where you want to be, what you want to be doing, who you want to be with, and as us coaches say, who you want to be. Focus on all of it, really truly having it. Repeat twice a day for some time, and see if it can change the way you think.