This is a quote from Eckhart Tolle:
Once you have identified with some form of negativity, you do not want to let it go, and on a deeply unconscious level you do not want positive change. It would threaten your identity as a depressed, angry or hard-done by person. You will then ignore, deny or sabotage the positive in your life. This is a common phenomenon. It is also insane.
I contend that a lot of us do this in many places of life. Maybe it’s your job, or your parents, or people you’ve chosen to date thus far, but there is somewhere you’re being the victim and getting something out of it. Truly ask yourself what you’re getting out of it. Then decide if it serves you. If you decide that it doesn’t serve you to continue to come from victim, then you’re ready to move forward and be the cause of your life instead of at effect. And if you’d like help seeing this, or you’d like help moving forward, then it’s time for you to call me to be your coach.