My drive across the country is going wonderfully. Lots of interesting sights, and lots of interesting places to stop. I’ve had lots of time to reflect and one place I know that has shifted a lot in the last year is in responsibility. If something isn’t going the way you want it to go, whether it is a relationship, a job, or even a cross-country drive, be responsible. It is so easy to sit back and blame others. The economy hurt my job, my partner is always fighting with me, or any number of other things we do. Our instincts have us create games, and we always win the games we play. Today I invite you to not let blaming be one of your games.
Maybe your job really is hurting with the economy, but the only thing you can do is decide how you are going to move forward from that. What choices are you making so that you are being held back? What choices can you change? Similarly with any relationship. If your friend is doing something which upsets you, identify the cycle and decide where you are going to intervene next time. Do not just blame the friend for how things are.
One thing I learned over the last year is that these blaming games do not help anybody. The only thing they do is hold you where you are, and keep you from moving forward. Victims blame others, responsible people create something better. Speaking as someone who learned to be responsible, I promise you the rewards are endless. When you are the driver of your life, your life becomes what you want it to be, where you want it to be, and with whom you want it to be.
Avoid the blame game. The only thing blame does is take away energy from you creating the life of your dreams.