I always love comments and requests to this blog. Not only does it make creating almost-daily topics much easier, but it serves as a great indicator that I am writing something which is meaningful for many people. I got a great comment on one of my previous posts which I am going to address today. When I said that love is unconditional regardless of the actions of others, the commenter asked "what if their action was leaving you?"
I do not know the situation from which this came, but I will contend that this came from someone who was hurt by someone who they loved leaving them. This is very painful for anyone, and it can be very difficult to move on. Certainly you could make a very good case that someone who leaves like that does not "deserve" to be forgiven, but making that case about anyone is not how to create the life of your dreams. Victims have lists of people who they don’t forgive, and why they are justified in doing so. Creating your own life means living from a place of love, and that means actions are forgiven. This is true even if that action is leaving.
Love can exist through leaving. Just because the person made a choice which hurts you, does not mean you can’t love them. It might be the hardest thing you ever do, but you cannot afford the incompleteness if you are going to create the life of your dreams.