Whatever it is you want to do, whether it is a new job, or a new/better relationship, or to get in better shape, the first thing you need to do is act like someone who does it. This means speaking and thinking like someone who is fully able, not like someone who does not know the way. It is so easy to say "as soon as I have a lot of money in the bank, I can act rich" but the reality usually shows that the money does not get there unless you act like someone with whom it belongs. Similarly, it is so easy to say that you’ll be great in a relationship as soon as things go your way, but what if you acted like things were great now? What if you started where things were great, and then moved forward from that point?
The first step is always to be what it is you are trying to create. Be love, be fit, be smart. From this place the greatness finds you.