I walked into work last week and our kitchen was packed with candy bars and sodas. There was an email sent out asking about our snack preferences which I did not answer, and subsequently my work made an effort to make me happy by guessing what I would like. Clearly there was lack of understanding of which snacks I prefer, but this was not the fault of my work. It was ultimately my choice not to answer the email.
Often in relationships and in jobs, we find ourselves being asked to do things that we did not want to do. Sometimes this is unavoidable, someone has to take out the trash and pick up after the dog, but other times this is just the result of not communicating what is really desired. If there is something which you really want, make sure it is clearly expressed. If you are not getting what you want, then never blame the other party. Ask yourself what you did to express your preferences, and what else you can do to make sure it is heard by the other party.
Be clear about what you want. Responsibility starts with you, find a way to be heard. Never place blame on someone else for not knowing what you prefer.