A big news story last week involved a basketball player who was found in a coma after numerous drugs. Many people in the news have "defended" his actions, essentially saying some variation of his rough upbringing is tough to put behind him, causing him to act out in many different ways. Hopefully no one reading this has problems this big, but I contend that the upbringing story has been present at times.
It is important to remember that no one had a perfect upbringing. Everybody on this planet had parent(s) or guardian(s) who were learning as they go. It is important to remember that there is no such thing as parents who already learned all the needed lessons before they had children. So many of us blame our upbringing for many of our behaviors, our lack of success, or any trouble we get into. As we see now, even a multi-millionaire athlete with is not immune from this.
The biggest takeaway is that blaming your upbringing for any of your actions or outcomes is a choice. You can let it be with you for as long as you choose to carry it. It is guaranteed that you will find imperfections, but whether you blame them or not for anything is completely up to you.
Choose to look forward. You can always find imperfections in the past if you look hard enough, but leaning on them for anything usually does not lead to the life of your dreams.