I saw so many good quotes from Martin Luther King, Jr. this week that I just had to make another post. The longer we live and the more we interact with other people, the more we are going to have disagreements. The longer we live and the more we interact with other people, the more we are going to find people doing things which don’t make us happy. This says nothing about you, this says nothing about other people, it is honestly nothing but mathematics. More trials of any kind always means more failures. People will say things you don’t like, people will do things you don’t like, people will leave when you want them to stay, people will stay when you want them to leave. All types of things happen, and the more chances you have, the more it will happen.
Your choice is how you move forward. In coaching, we relate to people as perfect the way they are. We learn to take responsibility. We say that this person is who they are, and it is up to you to move forward from there, not to try to change them, and not to blame them for anything. Further, it is also your decision how you feel about this. Remember, just by virtue of being on this planet for a certain amount of time, people are going to do things that you do not like. If you make the decision to carry hate for these people as a result of these things, that is your burden to carry. You always have the choice instead to decide they acted perfectly, and to move forward with love.
I really cannot imagine what it was like to live when Martin Luther King, Jr. lived. To be told that being born a certain way means you cannot eat at a certain place, or sit in a certain seat, that must have been extremely difficult to live through. But despite being around all that hate, many people found a way to love anyway. Perhaps they recognized that the choice to hate carries more of a burden to the chooser. Whatever might have happened in your life as the result of the actions of anyone else, consider finding a similar way to love.